中西方礼仪文化的差异论文00

Fang Yuan

Abstract: The etiquette is a rule which exchange between the person and person, is one language, and also is one kind of toll. Because forms the etiquette the important root—the different in religious belief, enables the world’s people that belief the different religious to observe the different etiquette. With the acceleration of the pace of reform and opening up, increasing transnational communication. Chinese and western etiquette and culture difference are more evident than, as well as the impact of such differences should not be overlooked. We need to understand this etiquette’s difference. In this essay, we will take China, British and America as the representation of Western, to look at some culture difference in etiquette, and then analyze the reasons. Furthermore, we will discuss how to learn western culture and the integration of Chinese and Western culture etiquette. Key Words: etiquette; difference; integration

ⅠIntroduction

The etiquette is a rule which between the person and the exchanges, is one language, also is one kind of tool .with China entry into the WTO and will hold the Olympic game in 2008, the relationship between China and Western in politics, economy, culture will become more and more close. It is undoubtedly that the etiquette will play an important role in this process. To the definition of etiquette, China and Western have a different understanding. As Chinese thinks that the etiquette is the common behavior standards that all the members must obey, and its purpose is to keep the normal living order of the society. In ancient China, a famous philosopher thinks that etiquette is a principal to deal with the relationship between man and supernatural beings, man and ghosts, man and men. There are also many words about etiquette in English. For example, courtesy which means courteous behavior, good manners; protocol which means system of rules governing formal occasion, e .g, meetings, between governments, diplomats, etc. And these words are all from the same French word etiquette. e.g.， Of course, more spread and more profound cultural comment of the western etiquette is from the Classical Period, i.e., old Athens and Roma culture. Today, etiquette becomes the reflection and manifestation of one country’s politics, economy, and culture in people’s social contact. And it includes the principal and moral that people should obey in daily life. Etiquette formed in the process of the deposition of culture and social contact. So every nation has their own etiquette standard which created with the spirit of this their

nation. Because of this form the cultural difference between different nations. As languages is the carrier of the human culture. This difference must reflect in the language of different nations. So we need to understand these etiquette’s different.

ⅡSome Cultural Differences on Etiquette Between China and Western

Culture difference on politeness between western and Chinese can be found in many aspects of daily communication, including addressing, greeting and parting, compliments, apologies, thanks, etc. In the following, we will look at some etiquette culture different between China and western.

1. Greeting and Parting

When people meet acquaintances or friends, people usually greet each other. The purpose of greeting is to establish or maintain social contact. So formulaic expressions are often used, but such formulaic expressions often causes conflict because of the great culture differences between Chinese and native English speakers. In English, people often use the following expressions to greet each other ―Good morning/ evening /afternoon. Fine day, isn’t it? How is going everything?‖ Have you eaten yet?‖ What are you going to do?‖ where have you been?‖ etc. Western treats them as real question. Parting may be divided into two steps. Before the final parting, there is usual a leave-taking. Western and Chinese cultures have diverse ways to deal with leave-taking. Firstly, in English society, during the closing phase of an encounter, form ―I‖ perspective, reason for terminating the encounter is presented in the mitigative comments. Typical comments are associated with expressions of apology, such as ―I‖ am afraid, I must be off, I have to relieve the baby-sitter, etc. Western people believe that to be willing to visit and converse with someone is to have respect for him; to terminate the visiting is not of one’s own free will, but because of some other arrangements, therefore they always try to make their leaving sound reluctant by finding some reasons and apologize for it to make the leaving acceptable for both parties. English speaker often signal several times before leaving. ―Well, it’s been nice to see you again. I do enjoy our talk and the lovely dinner, but I must be going soon‖. ―Thank you very much for asking en over. I hope we will be able to get together again before long …‖ Consolidation in a wider range of common acquaintance also occurs, in expressions such as ―Say hello to Jack for me‖ or ―Remember me to John.‖ In Chinese society, during the closing phase of and encounter, usually from ―you‖ perspective, reason for ending the encounter is set forth in mitigative expression. Such expressions include ―你挺忙的，我就不打扰了.‖ ―你一定累了，早点休息吧，我要告辞了.‖etc. With these words, they may stand up from their seats. Chinese

leave-taking is very short and quick. Western people think it so abrupt that they have not prepared for is. While moving to the door, Chinese use expressions of apology like ―对不起，打扰了.‖ ―’对不起，占用你不少时间。‖ It should be noted that these expressions employed by Chinese guests to show concern for their hosts can only be appropriate for business visits in the English environment.

2. Addressing

Both western and Chinese people have two kinds of personal names---surname and a given name. But the order and the use of these names in the two languages are some what different. In Chinese, the surname comes first and then the given name. And people like add ―小‖ before their family name. Such as ―小王‖、 ―小郑‖、 ―小李‖、 ―小徐‖ and so on… While westerns names are written and spoken with the given name first and family name last. So John Smith’ family name is Smith, not is John. In a formal setting, address men as ―Mister‖ (abbreviated as ―Mr.‖), married women as ―Misses‖ (abbreviated as ―Mrs.), and unmarried women as ―Miss‖(abbreviated as ―Ms.‖). These days many women prefer to be addresses using the abbreviation ―Ms.‖ or ―M.‖, pronounced /miz/. If the person has an M.D.or Ph.D., they will often be addresses as ―Doctor‖ (abbreviated as ―Dr.‖). Faculty is addressed as ―Professor‖ (abbreviated as ―Prof.‖). In an informal situation, westerns will introduce each other by first name, without title, and occasionally by just the last name. If you are introduce to somebody be first name, you can address him or her by first name the next time you meet. The only exception would be for someone who holds an important position, such as the university president or provost. Unless they tell you otherwise, faculty should be addressed using their title and last name (e.g., ―Professor Smith‖). When in doubt, use the formal manner of address, since it is better to err on the side of formality. It is also appropriate to ask how they prefer to be addressed. Children should always address adults in the formal fashion, using their title and last name. Another difference is about the form of addressing. Form the viewpoint of sociolinguistics, forms if addressing can serve as an indication of the relationship of power and solidarity in the society. In calling their superiors or elders, the Chinese are accustomed to the nonreciprocal or asymmetrical addressing, in other words. ―They use ―title + surname‖ to address their superior or elders rather than call them surnames, while the superior or elders call the addressers their names.‖① The Chinese tend to abide by the polite principle of depreciating oneself and respecting others to show appropriate respects towards the persons being addressed, otherwise, the addresser may be considered as ill mannered, ill educated or rude. But in English countries, people have a tendency to follow the reciprocal or symmetrical addressing. Although they are different in age and status, they can call the other directly, namely,

their names, even first names except when they call the doctors, not arousing offence between them, but demonstrating the sense of intimacy and the conception of ―Everyone is created equal‖. Chinese people feel unnatural addressing a western by his given name, feeling that it indicates too close a relationship, and westerners, on the other hand, may feel that if a Chinese insists on using his surname, it indicates an unwillingness to be friendly and maintains a gap between them. So use of forms like ―Miss Mary‖ or ―Mr. Smith‖ may be Chinese forms of compromise. With Miss Mary, the use of given name indicates friendliness, but the addition of the title indicates the respect they feel they ought to show. And with Smith, the lack of a title indicates friendliness, but the use of surname prevents if sounding too intimate. However, both addressing uses by the Chinese sound very strange and uncomfortable to the western.

3. Compliments and Response

To compliment is to praise the addressee’s virtues, ability, behavior, appearance, clothing, personality and belongs. Appropriate compliments can serve as effective supplementary means in inter-personal communication. Western and Chinese culture are at polar opposites about compliment. A western hosted, if she is complimented for her cooking skill, is likely to say, ―Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you. ―Not so is a Chinese hostess, who will instead apologize for giving you ―Nothing‖. They will day ―随便作几个菜，不好吃。If translate this into English ―I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty. Perhaps the foreigner will think why you invited me to your family and have the untested food. You are not respecting me. The English-speaking people are more active to praise others and to be praise than Chinese people. For example, the Americans are ―straight forwardness‖, the Chinese take pride in ―modesty‖. That modesty has left many a Chinese hungry at an Americans table, for Chinese politeness calls for three refusals before one accepts an offer and the Americans hosts take ‖no ‖ to mean ―no ‖, whether it is the first, second or third time. Still bigger differences exist in people’s attitude towards compliments, i.e., in the response to compliments. Chinese are tending to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments. So many westerners simply feel puzzled or even upset when their Chinese friends refused their compliments. The Chinese people are not intending to be modest with the sacrifice of friendship in so doing, but it is rather due to the traditional Chinese philosophy, that of modesty. The Chinese people regard modesty as a most valuable virtue, so they seldom agree to the compliment on their own.

4. Apologies and Responses

If wrong things are done, there must be apologies. As to how to offer apologies, both western and Chinese people may ―I am sorry…‖, ―apologize for…‖ etc. But Chinese would like to apologize for the crowded state of their dwellings and for small numbers of dishes, although the room is big enough and there are many dishes. Chinese stay these to express self-depreciation only out of courtesy, not having other implication. But the western would wonder, since the room is so large and there are so many dishes, why do they say so. May be they do not welcome our visit; they do not like us to eat more. When Chinese contract with westerners, if they do not know these differences, it will lead to misunderstanding. The ways to respond to apologies are different, too.

A: Oh, I’m sorry. I forget it.

B1: It doesn’t matter. B2: That’s all right

B2 is westerners. B1 is a Chinese person. ―It doesn’t matter‖ is a translation of ―没关系‖ from Chinese, which is a common pattern in Chinese to respond to apologies. If a Chinese uses this to respond to apologies, westerners will think that he is a sharp person, who simply can not forgive a very little wrong thing.

5. Thanks and Responses

―Thank you‖ is widely used in English to show gratitude in such cases as being invited, helped, given a gift, etc. etiquette culture differences exist between Chinese and western in how to express thanks and responses. In fact, ―Thank you‖ is uttered in English for more than acknowledging favor or gratitude, and it is often a means to show politeness. On many occasions, the English use this utterance while the Chinese may say ―有劳您了‖. Or do not say a word at all but just smile or nod. As a matter of fact, ―Thank you‖ is used more widely by westerners than Chinese use ―谢谢‖ for minor favors like borrowing pencil, asking directions, requesting someone to pass on a message, receiving a telephone, etc. ―Thank you‖ not only shows politeness but also carries a person’s grateful feeling for those who offer help. Without using expressions of gratitude, misunderstandings may arise because the help seems to be taken for granted and is not appreciated. For westerners, each person is an equal individual, whether he is a family member of not. In Chinese, ―谢谢‖ is not frequently uses between intimate friends and family members because it may imply a certain distance between the addresser and the addressee. Native speakers may respond to ―thank you‖ by saying: You are welcome / It’s a my pleasure/ Not at all / Don’t mention it / That’s all right. While Chinese people may say: ―这是我应该做的‖, which may convey to westerners the message that the Chinese did not really want to do it, or that he/she did it only because it wall his/her duty. This message is quite different from what the

Chinese speaker intended to express.

6. Asking Personal Affairs

People from China do not regard it as asking personal affairs when they ask others name、year、marital status、wages、personal life、belief and political points. It is regard as concerns. While the westerns will think you infringe on their right of privacy. When we talk to the westerns, we must avoid asking some questions like this:‖ How old are you?‖、―Are you married？‖、―How many children do you have？‖、―How much do you make？‖、―What’s your weight?‖、―Do you go to the church？‖

7. Invitation and Saying Good-Bye

In the culture of British and America, it is very important to consult a time before you invite somebody to attend a banquet or take part in social activities. Esp. in America, invite somebody means you are borrow times of others. So they respect time very much. While in China, people are preferred to an uninvited guest. And otherwise, you will be thought unfriendly if you cannot receive an uninvited guest very well.

8. Concerning

In China, we always say ―你辛苦了‖, ―你一定累了‖ to show our consideration when somebody from far place. While the westerners do it in a different way. They will say ―How is your trip?‖ ―You must be very interesting.‖ These sentences are all express in psychological aspect. Concerning the old people is the virtue of human race. ―But different etiquette culture has different styles. In China, people will say ―您年纪大了，你坐吧!‖when they give their seats to the old people. But this is regarded as taboo in western.‖②

Ⅲ Factor Affecting Etiquette Culture Difference

Different Culture Factors May Result in Cultural Differences and Consequently The acknowledgment of factors that affect the cultural differences will facilitate the understanding of such differences, part of which will vie discuss in the followings. Since it is impossible to cover all of the factors in this thesis, the factors discussed here are some important ones. Factors affect cultural differences.

1.Cultural Background

One of the cultural different reasons between China and western is cultural

background. ―In Spring and Autumn and Warrings periods of China emerged Confucianism, Taoism and other ideologies. As different ideologies developed and combated each other, the basic framework of Chinese civilization was established. And then Confucianism became the foundation stone of Chinese philosophy system. Confucianism's central doctrine is that of the virtue of Ren. ‖③ What is Ren? Ren is translated variously as goodness, benevolence, humanity and human-heartedness. In short, Ren means affection and love. For more than 2 thousand years it has molded and shaped the civilization of China and exerted a profound influence upon almost one fourth of human race. Just as DR. Sun-Yat-Sen said: ―Therefore the old morals of loyalty and piety, affection, and love, faithfulness and righteousness, are superior to those of the foreign countries Let alone that peace and harmony‖. These high standards of morals are our national spirit. Different from China, Christianity plays an important role in western. The English speaking countries are generally considered as Christian countries where many people believe in Christianity. Christianity is the region based on the life and teaching of Jesus Christ. He is the founder of Christianity. According to the doctrine of Christianity, the Trinity is the union of the three forms of God, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Jesus Christ the son of the God, and the holy book of Christianity is the Bible, which consists of the Old Testament and the New Testament. However, the power of the church cannot compare with the past time, it still influence many aspects of people's daily life. For example, there are a few important festivals in the western is concern with Jesus Christ. Christmas day is a festival in celebration of the birth of the Jesus Christ on Dec.25.Virgin Birth refers to the birth of Christ, which Christians believe to have been caused by God rather than by ordinary sexual union.

2. Different Value

Another cultural different reason between China and western is different value. The concept of Chinese value is often consciously or unconsciously placed in opposition with western values. Therefore, it is necessary to determine how people define Western values. Some have stated that the modern Western value system originated in Victorian England, and describe it as social norms and behaviors common in European people during that time. The core of Western values is individualism. David Hitchcock described Western values from a Chinese perspective. He said that, from the Chinese viewpoint, Western values have three levels: 1) physical level – science, technology, business, public administration, and modern capitalist economics; 2) conceptual level – equal opportunity, the role of law; and time management; and 3) core values – open debate, equality, balance of power; free speech, and democracy. The core of the Chinese value has some relationship with the

Confucianism. The ethnic principle of Confucianism is its discovery of the ultimate in the moral character of human relationships in which Confucius offered the solution for the ills and evils of his days. That is the well-known Five Relationships: ruler-minister, father-son, husband-wife, elder-younger brother and friend-friend. This was explained as ―there should be affection between father and son, righteous sense of duty between ruler and minister, division of function between man and wife, stratification between old and young, and good faith between friends.‖ ―During the more than two thousand years of the feudal period, the ruling class arranges every thing by these relationships, and hen formed a class society. ‖④ In this kind of society, a minister owes loyalty to his ruler, and a child filial respect to his parent. The result is the humanity is neglected and people have no equality. Different from China, in the Renaissance period of England, people began to emphasize the dignity of human beings and the importance of the present life, they voiced their beliefs that man did not only have the right to enjoy the beauty of their life, but also have the ability to perfect themselves and perform wonders. This is the rudiment of Humanism. People became respect the humanity from then on. And then develop into the ideas of what we always said freedom, democracy. Today, take Americans for instance; the top personal values were self-reliance, hard work, and a tie between achieving success in life, personal achievement, and helping others. Hard work, respect for learning, honesty, and self-reliance were most valued among Chinese people. In terms of social values, the top six for Americans were freedom of expression, personal freedom, rights of the individual, open debate; thinking for oneself, and official accountability. The top six social values for Asian people were maintenance of an orderly society, harmony, accountability of public officials, openness to new ideas, freedom of expression, and respect for authority. This study finds that unlike Americans, East Asians are generally more respectful of authority and prize an orderly society, however in concurrence with the West, Asians honor new ideas, official accountability, and free expression.

3. Individualism and Collectivism

Individualism refers to the doctrine that the rights of the individual are the most important ones in a society. Most westerners believe that each person has his own separate identity and personality, which should be recognized and reinforce. Therefore, one can not comprehensive western and its people without understanding individualism. Only with the cognition of individualism can understand how westerners conceptualize family, friendships, and privacy. The core of individualism is the pursuit of personal and achievements. It is highly values, earnestly believes and well appreciated as a fundamental social virtue. In Christianity traditions, individuals

are important not only to each other, but also to the society and God. Individualism has been handed down from their ancestors. Therefore, to westerners, individualism is not selfishness but rather virtue. They emphasize individualism so much that they believe that there must be something wrong with someone who fails to demonstrate individualism. That likes the derogatory meaning as egoism, with represents selfishness in quality and looseness in discipline. In traditional Chinese beliefs, esp. in Confucianism, collectivism is appreciated. It emphasizes cooperation among group members and individual success is due to the collective effort of the staff in a unit, an organization or community. The sacrifice of individual interest for that of the collective is a noble quality eulogized so much by Chinese people that being modest and thoughtful of others are highly praised.

4. Family

Western families advocate equality. The husband and the wife usually have a vote. Family members are regarded as friend and they should treated equality in daily life. In the western, most old people do not live with their children or relatives. If they have enough money they will buy house or apartments in places where other old people live .If they do not healthy and strong enough to live alone, they would rather live in nursing houses for old people than be taken by their children. Therefore they want to stay young because youth stands for hope and energy, which can help them make some positive changes in life. Moreover, they do not like to grow old because they will not gain honor, respect or attention as old people. Case are different in China, where most Chinese family members tend to live together and the young are supposed to show respect and obedience to old people. Generally, old people receive honor, privilege and satisfaction since people believe that an old person is a wise man full of experience. The typical example is that the oldest person is the most respected not only in the family but also in the neighborhood. Just as Confucianism shows in Five Relations, the young should filial love, obedience and duty to the old in a family, esp. in the relationship between children and parents. For example, the Chinese who have moved abroad usually continue to send money back to their parents as a token of their filial piety. Moreover, many young people still try to live near their parents whenever possible even after they are marriage. Westerners stress individualism in families while Chinese stress coalition, which makes the Chinese family extremely cohesive. Family members depend on each other for support and they are required to show loyalty to the family and bring demonstrated virtuous behavior, then the whole family loses face. The meaning of ―face‖ should view in relation to the gain or loss of the social status of the family, not just of the individual. That is to say that Chinese culture emphasizes the collective quality in the nature of individual’s life and behavior.

Generally speaking, the Chinese have a stronger sense of family honor than westerners.

5. Nationalism

The fifth reason is the nationalism. Since the ancient China, the nation form of China is based solely on the Han nationality. What we said social etiquette standards are also bases solely on the Han nationality. The Han nationality developed their privities in the language expression and social contact during the common life and work of their forefathers in the history. Just subtle facial expression or a slight action can express some meanings. People can understand what you want to say when you say half of you comment or just say a little thing. So people don’t need to say all their intention when they express their own feelings. While in western, take the American for instance; American is an immigrant country which has more than two hundred years history. ―However, people in American still can not reach privities. They must express clearly what they thought, want. Only by this way can the others understand very well. So their language must speak out what they have to say.‖

Ⅳ How to Learn Western Etiquette

1. Establish a Right Attitude Toward Etiquette Culture Differences

Attitude is a manner of feeling and behaving. It can form a part of one’s perception of self, of others, and of the culture in which one is living. A foreign language learner should set up a right attitude toward different culture. i.e., to be open-minded to them. Prejudice should be avoided. Prejudice in culture refers to an intolerant, unfair or biased attitude toward another culture. Regardless of the existence of prejudice, cross-culture communication may become difficult because it stands in the way of acquired knowledge in it. When facing a new culture, people should be flexible and able to adapt themselves to the new situation. ―Do as the Romans do‖ is an effective way for those who are experiencing cultural differences. Therefore, being open-minded to cultural difference is a prerequisite to a successful communication with native speakers.

2. Learn Etiquette Culture Through Reading Materials

Reading extensively for cultural information having the successful communication is the main purpose of learning western etiquette. The cultural information that the students need in authentic communication greatly exceeds that covered in any courses. To developed people’s communication competence, people

should read authentic materials such as foreign newspapers, advertisements, journals, short stories, novels, play and other types of literature works. Literary works are of great significance to foreign language learners. In many cultures, particularly those whose languages are widely taught, literature performs an important role in society. They can reflect a culture, help readers gain deeper insights into the target society, enable them to have a better understanding go the national character of the people who produce the literature, and of the values they cherish. If we regard literature as a treasures house, then paying a visit to it will enable us to absorb cultural information stored in it. Informative works relevant to national character studier are another source of cultural information. Historians, sociologists and anthropologists, who engage themselves in the study of the target society, usually write these books. ―Foreign language learners can benefit a lot from these books since the books provide them with a detailed explanation of the people’s character in the target culture. ‖⑤ There are some other reading materials, which are related closely to our daily life, such as newspapers and magazines. Because most contents of these materials are authentic, they expose to us various cultural backgrounds, ranging from geography, history, customs, religion and philosophy, to entertainment, fashion and tourism. This kind of reading materials will help foreign learners get a better understanding of the target culture and keep a keen eye on it.

3. Learn Culture Though TV and Movies

It is even more so for western culture learners because they come to know the truth of native speakers’ behaviors on the screen. Foreign language learners can get a vivid picture of what the people’s life is like in the target culture. With the popularity of TV, they can obtain news all over the world, watch and enjoy movies in original versions of the target language at home. Such movies help foreign language learners with their vocabulary, listening ability as well as their awareness of cultural differences. Form the observation through the media, the features of everyday situations will impress them, such as, sightseeing, telephoning, shopping, or asking directions. What they have learned from books can be verified by the performance of the native speakers. While enjoying the attractive performance, language learners have to observe details of everyday situations, in case of greeting, farewell, compliment, apology, requirement, etc. Though the media people can learn the polite behavior, etiquette, means to solve conflicts, techniques of negotiation, debates, ways of show love, dating and so on. Movies can also improve cross-cultural communication by conveying the important values, communication styles and so on. After watching movies, foreign language learners may take notes of their observations, and supplement the findings and talk with those who have shared the same movies so

that they can apply what they have learned to real cross-cultural communication someday.

4. Attend Lectures on Culture

Foreign language learners should attend lectures on culture given by foreign teachers or those who have experience in foreign countries. Some lectures may be centered on the target culture while others may be a comparison between two cultures. Whichever lecture the learners attend, it may increase their cultural awareness though the description of different cultures and the techniques for proper behavior in cross-culture communication. Participating in discussions after the lecture will reinforce the culture information they have got form the lecture. What’s more, such discussions can reveal the relation between value systems and people’s behavior in social activities.

5. Communicate with Native Speakers

Foreign language learners can go to English Corners to learn culture. While communication with people from the other culture, students are easily hesitating to speak. They often ask themselves questions like these, ―I wonder whether they will like me? Suppose they disagree with my arguments? What if they misinterpret what I say? What if I say something inappropriate? ‖ When a westerner greets Chinese people, some to them pretend that they have not heard of it, or bow their head keeping silent. Some of them smile shyly and quickly go away. All these would make the westerner embarrassed. So Chinese must try to talk to westerners and take advantage of every opportunity to talk with foreign teachers and students available in a relaxed atmosphere. They will benefit from such talks since they can not only practice language, but also observe native speakers’ behavior and exchange their feelings about cultural differences with native speakers. While they attend classes given by foreign teachers, observation and exchange of feelings are of the same importance. Foreign language learners should not hesitate to ask foreigners questions concerning cultural differences, and foreigners may like to answer them since they equally eager to know such differences, which have much to do with their life in China.

ⅤThe Amalgamation of Chinese and Western Culture Etiquette

The etiquette is one kind of culture, is the culture has the longitudinal inheritance and the crosswise model and the fusion. With the accelerating pace of globalization, the economy, the culture high speed collision fuses under the big background, the

western culture massively wells up China; the Chinese tradition etiquette also unceasingly receives the western etiquette culture the impact. How protect the traditional etiquette, and goes to its dregs, carries on the reasonable and effective fusion with the western etiquette, it has become the topic of thought and discussion. More and more people realized that the China and western culture must be mutually to seep, unceasingly develops. ―Take for eating; now fast-food restaurants and western food have accounted for the very great proportion, more and more people start to attempt and to accept these external foods.‖ With the diet culture exchanges of the China and western, not only has brought the cake, the bread, the cocktail, the western-style vegetable and so on, also has brought some advanced manufacture crafts of western and the diet method. These all have poured into the new vigor for the ancient Chinese diet culture. Of course, our country glorious and the bright diet culture also influence the overseas culture growing, almost all over the world, a large number of Chinese restaurants, Chinese cuisine increasingly welcomed and loved by the peoples of all countries. For example, Bei Jing duck has become the typical delicacy in foreigners’ heart. However, in the integration process of western culture and Chinese culture, the Chinese people would blindly enthusiastic in the west, unconsciously into misunderstanding, we tried to replace the traditional western etiquette culture, etiquette is the most representative of a nation of a nation things. Only is understands undisputable to the western etiquette as the folk custom knowledge, if chases in a swarm, has lost nationality’s self-respect, our own traditional etiquette will be submerge. The integration of Chinese and western culture etiquette, in today’s China, we use more the western etiquette, but no matter use the western etiquette or having our own set of etiquette system, it is easy. The difficult thing is we can have a complete system of value, and profound recognition if the high degree is awareness of their own culture. We use the western etiquette, not merely is uses its form among them, must use in the soul, only has us to establish like own is self-confident and the superiority feeling, can establish our power. Not only is the strength of national rejuvenation and regeneration, it is also a culture revival. Only people also share our culture, we can really make a courtesy visit to the world.

Ⅵ Conclusion

People does not have the etiquette, it will not up, the things does not have the etiquette, it will in adequate, the country does not have etiquette, it will not peace. The society of lacking etiquette, it is often not an immature society. But an etiquette standard not too unifies even mutually the contradictory society, often is not a harmonious society. The etiquette, is the basic the civilized society, is the social civilization most directly and most comprehensive performance way. To build a

harmonious society, we must first begin etiquette. Today China is facing unprecedented challenges, both material and spiritual, culture aspects, the urgent need to have a complete and reasonable values reunification. But the etiquette culture is without doubt kind unified ―first marches‖, only we clearly recognized the difference in etiquette culture between China and the western, to fuse the two effective, it will establish a etiquette culture system suited to the recent society of China , to achieve the ideal if a harmonious society.